I'm worried about someone

If You Notice Something, What Should You Do?

When someone you care about doesn't seem like themselves, it can be difficult to know whether to say something — or what to say. You don't need to have all the answers to let someone know that you care.

Start the conversation

You can simply ask. You don't need the perfect words. You can start with something as simple as:

"I've noticed you've seemed different lately. How are you doing?"

"You don't seem like yourself. Is everything okay?"

"I'm here if you want to talk."

"I've been thinking about you. How are you really doing?"

You don't have to fix what they're going through. Sometimes being willing to listen is where support begins.

What should I look for?

Sometimes changes in someone's behavior can be signs that they may be struggling. Examples may include:

Withdrawing from friends, family, or activities they normally enjoy
Significant changes in mood or behavior
Expressing feelings of hopelessness, worthlessness, or being a burden
Major changes in sleeping or eating
Increasing use of alcohol or drugs
Giving away possessions or saying goodbye in an unusual way
Talking or joking about death, suicide, or not wanting to be here
Decline in work or school performance
Feeling or showing happiness that seems more than normal

One sign doesn't necessarily mean someone is experiencing a mental-health crisis. But if something concerns you, it's okay to reach out.

What if they tell me they're struggling?

Listen.

Give them your attention and allow them to talk without immediately trying to solve the problem.

Take them seriously.

Avoid dismissing what they're feeling or telling them they simply need to "think positive."

Ask what they need.

You can say: "What can I do to support you?"

Help them connect with support.

Initiate a connection with someone they would trust or with a qualified mental-health professional or support service. You can also reach the Suicide and Crisis Lifeline by dialing 988.

What if I'm worried they may hurt themselves?

If you are concerned that someone may be thinking about suicide, don't be afraid to ask them directly. Asking about suicide does not put the idea in someone's head.

If someone tells you they are thinking about suicide or you believe they may be in immediate danger, take it seriously and seek immediate help. Don't leave them alone if you believe they are in immediate danger.

Call or text 988

You don't have to do this alone

Supporting someone who is struggling can be difficult. You don't have to become their counselor, and you don't have to know exactly what to say. Sometimes the most important thing you can do is let someone know:

"I'm here. I care about you. Let's find some help together."

Have You Been Through Something Similar?

Sometimes the best way to help someone else is to share what you've learned from your own experience. If you've experienced a difficult time, supported someone who was struggling, or had a moment that reminded you that hope is still possible, your story may be able to encourage someone else.

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